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A couple years ago I dislocated my shoulder doing something foolish. I reset it myself and it felt much better. The pain mostly went away but after 2 years it still hurts some times. The wife says that my body is getting older but my brain isnt. I don't know what she means by that.
 
Tonight when after taking Granny to get her ready for bed she asked me if I had heard from her other son. I told her no. She said it's not fair that we were taking care of ' all' of her. I had to laugh an d tell her I couldn't split her in half, it was all of nothing. . . :). I reminded her that his wife controls what her other son does and that is what he revolves around. She said that she thought she brought her kids up better than that. I don't want to ever make her feel bad or unwelcome being here at our home. So I look in her eyes I tell her that I am glad that she is here. . . . Yes after (it's only been 5 weeks) I am ready for a break. My anniversary is Wed next week and I would really like a day or at least a couple hours at this point would be nice so we could go out.
 
robinjopo said:
My brother lives next door to my mothers house. The very few times she visits her home, he is ready to bring her back to me within a week.
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That's a male for you. . . Sorry hun but when it comes to caregiving long term, it is up to us gals.
 
Is it sad that I found out a BIG tip when wiping booty after son 2 had been potty training his first child. . . It's much easier to move a 1 yr old so I built on his laying down as much as possible.

I hatching put granny to bed last night since I normally get up at ,3 am and they are late sleepers which means they go to bed much later than I would like. Last night, I had hunny put Granny to bed. .she asked me if there was anyone else to put her to bed. . Guess I will have to stay up.
 
Glad you were able to take on the responsibility GG, not many males can for their own mommas. We have many males in the family, but granny would only like to have a female take care of her personal needs, which means me. Which maybe Granny needs more personal needs than others. She is not able to do anything for herself other than stand up and sit down with help along with feeding herself again at this time too. I do everything except two days a week hunny has to take her potty while I am at work, which is one time each of those days and he fixes her lunch those days too.
 
Guess this means she will be at your house from now on. . . Not that she went back home often. I feel for you. I just threw out the last stack of newspapers granny had saved over the years about all the hurricanes that hit around this area.
 
She keep everything anyone has ever gotten her. It could be a rock or stick. Lol

I said we just need to rent a dumpster for a month and let her go up and take her time. My daughter is going to take some of the big furniture and my best friend owns an antique mall and is going to go through it and see if she can find anything to sell.

She said today that if she didn't get rid of some of this pain, she thought she wouldn't be alive long.

I told her that all the searches say to take ibuprofen etc and she wont. She wants a doctor to tell her to take ibuprofen not me.
 
I have to admit taking care of Granny is more work than I thought it would be 24/7. . . But I am dealing with ok right now. Hunny on the other hand has had his ok days and others are just not. He has done so much for his sweet mom while I am at work. . . . I wake her up before I go to get her ready for the day than put her back to bed until my hunny gets up and he takes it from there until I get home by 2 pm. I get up by 4 am, 3 on the days I work just because I never know what I am walking into.. . she is woken up by 7:30 if she is not awake sooner. If later than that you can almost guarantee an accident. After waking when I am off,she goes straight to the potty and every other day gets a shower a d dressed. Right now since the battery change the top gets sponge bathed while the lower parts are scrubbed normally and sprayed down. The battery area can not get wet at this time he to possible infection so I have to be very careful right now. After that get dressed and coffee and breakfast. While granny eats, hunny sits with her so I can go out to feed my goats and do any chores out there that need done. Midmorning or at least every other day her sheets need to be changed out due to accident or thin skin bleeding and her made. I think when she rolls over her skin just tears open more. Every morning we put on lotion all over her legs, arms, face and chap stick on her lips. Everything tends to dry out quickly so just trying to keep her skin hydrated. then potty once again. After that I have about an hour to an hour and a half before I need to start her lunch which she eats at noon. It always takes about an hour to an hour and fifteen minutes for every meal for her to eat. Just glad that she can feed herself right now, but you need to be on standby just in case she choked on somethig. By then it is another potty break even though she will tell you no. . She really does. I try to take her every 3 hours. She was ok with care givers only taking her twice a day but she seems happy when she continuously is dry instead of having to change out her pad. We still have to deal with some accidents though. After lunch and potty I have sometime to pickup clean and do laundry. Around 3 pm I start on dinner and 430 it is potty time once again. Then I go feed a little early. Then it is hunny s turn to go out and finish upgrading time with the critters. Supper for granny is at 6 pm and by the time she is finished at 730 I am taking her back to the potty and get her ready for bed. Then take her back to the living room to fall asleep to the baseball or football game be quashed doesn't th I I she is ready for bed. She is put to bed anywhere between 9 and 10 pm.

I have to admit I get depressed, but I think it has more to do with my hunny s attitude.
 
You are a good person.

Some days mom pees every hour but she does everything herself.

Her arthritis pain is getting worse and she stays in here room a lot. We are waiting for an appointment with a pain doctor, but nothing so far.

I have always thought that one day she just wont wake up. I hope it happens that way.
 
The doctor checking mom today was rough. She is 86 and was twisting and pulling on her so hard. I was flinching.

He is sending her for x-rays and gave her some pain meds. She has an ice pack on her groin because it is so painful.
 
Have they ruled out nerve pain and certain it is just arthritis? When granny was at her house living with constant knee pain, the doctor tried different things to relieve it. A variety of pain pills, knee injections, knee patches and nerve pain pills, It was like she was a genie pig and the doctors could not find a solution . . At least we did that seems to help her most days. I hope her doctor finds a solution for your mom or you stumble on something to help like we did by just not running a lower a/c setting as she did at her place.
 
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